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Holidays in the Workplace:  Celebrate, Don't Alienate
 


Your IT person is leaving early for a Hanukkah party while your receptionist is setting up a Christmas tree. Your marketing department is putting up candles for Kwanzaa just as your product manager is fasting for Ramadan.

Here comes the annual December dilemma. How can companies celebrate or acknowledge the number and variety of holiday traditions even-handedly without having to throw multiple parties or alternatively taking the Scrooge-like approach of discouraging any parties?

"It's very easy at this time of year to make a lot of employees feel excluded or like second class citizens," said Georgette Bennett, president of the Tanenbaum Center for Interreligious Understanding in New York City.

The problem is becoming more pronounced in your average American workplace because America's workforce is more religiously diverse than ever. At the same time, only two percent of companies "officially" recognize any religious holidays other than Christian holidays, according to a Tanenbaum Center study.

Most offices close on Christmas Day, for example, but days off are rarely built into the business calendar for the Jewish holiday of Yom Kippur or the Muslim celebration of Id al-Fitr.

Still, some companies are starting to think out of the holiday box, so to speak. One innovative way to handle the holiday challenge, for example, is "holiday swapping" in which non-Christians can opt for working on Christmas Day in exchange for taking off on a different religious holiday of their choice.

Other companies are polling workers to come up with a list of 21 holidays that are particularly meaningful to them. They can then choose to observe any 11 of those holidays.

"It's one of the most meaningful things a company can do - giving employees time off for religious observances," Bennett noted.

Another question is how to celebrate holidays in the workplace without making some co-workers feel left out or uncomfortable. Many employees feel peer pressure, Bennett said, to attend holiday parties which, for religious reasons, they may not feel comfortable with. Yet they don't want to be viewed as "not part of the group."

"Companies need to keep the holiday celebration generic, but also inclusive," suggested Gail Jern, Human Resources Representative at Westaff.

To start with, holiday planning teams should involve a diverse group of employees who can help steer a company away from holiday faux pas. You wouldn't want to plan the annual employee luncheon during Ramadan, for example, when your Muslim employees are required to fast from sunrise to sunset.

Jern suggested allowing employees to recognize the December holidays that are meaningful to them through a variety of decorations, perhaps including a Menorah and a Kwanzaa Kinara as well as a Christmas tree in the office. Employees can also be encouraged to bring in their favorite holiday-related foods like dates and special sweets for Id al-Fitr.

"Remember, this country was founded on freedom of religion, not freedom from religion," Jern said. "We need to embrace everyone's religion."

But also be sensitive to those who cannot celebrate at all, Bennett noted. Jehovah's Witnesses, for example, are not allowed to participate in parties, events or gift giving.

"One case came up at a major investment house," she said. "A high level employee was a Jehovah's Witness. With constant holiday parties going on, she was so uncomfortable at work she had to stay home. You don't want to put anyone in that kind of position."

If an official company party is planned, it's best to call it a seasonal holiday party, with seasonal themes and decorations. "Certainly, a lot of people can be resentful if they are deprived of any holiday party at all," she said. "The most important thing is to be guided by your employees and not make any assumptions."

 

 

Holiday Cheer on the Cheap


In this down economy with companies canceling or not even contemplating official parties, it can be difficult to keep employees' spirits holiday bright. But few businesses want the holidays to pass without some kind of company cheer.

So, here are some thrifty, fun, and inclusive ideas to celebrate the season with your co-workers.

  • Organize a potluck in the conference room. Make it a cultural event by encouraging workers to bring in the dishes they traditionally love to celebrate their holidays with. Then feast on tamales, latkes, lasagna and more!

  • Host a cookie exchange. Ask workers to bake their favorite cookie, making sure there's at least one of each type for each person in the department. Then present the cookies in an easily accessible, festive way on a large table. Each employee can then circle the table with a holiday box or tin, taking a certain amount of each type of cookie. At the end, everyone gets to go home with a wonderful variety. Don't forget to bring in photocopies of the recipes.

  • No time or money for a full-length, off-site office party? Consider a shorter, in-office event such as an afternoon tea or a morning pastry party. Both can easily be organized as potluck events.

  • Family-focused companies might also consider hosting a children's party, instead of an employee event. Invite workers to bring in their children or grandchildren for cocoa, cookies and caroling.

The important thing is to follow the lead of your employees. Ask them for ideas about how they might want to celebrate the holidays at work. Then break out the eggnog!

 

 

Ask Ms. Carmen Courtesy - Your Office Etiquette Expert

Dear Ms. Courtesy,

What do you do when your boss invites everyone else out for lunch or for an after-work holiday party and excludes you?

— Hurt and Hungry

Dear Hurt:

This is the workplace equivalent of the first-grader who invites all but one classmate to her birthday party. Like your mother probably told you then, it's not nice and it hurts, but eventually you'll get over it.

"There are always going to be parties that you're not invited to," said Ann Chadwell Humphries, president of ETICON Inc., an etiquette consulting business in Columbia, S.C. "On a business level, you just have to have a thick skin about that sort of thing." Remember that work is primarily about business, not friendship.

On the other hand, it can still be embarrassing and isolating for the employee. If the boss is truly creating a hostile workplace, it might be worth a conversation with Human Resources or another supervisor. Workplace party organizers also have a responsibility to be discreet in order to avoid hurting feelings. If a small group of colleagues is choosing to celebrate after work, for example, it's important to keep it mum so as to avoid making others feel left out.

Sometimes a boss or co-worker can mistakenly believe that an individual wouldn't be interested in a particular gathering or event. If that's the case, they should think again. Never assume how someone else might feel. Besides, it doesn't hurt to extend an invitation in the spirit of team building.

Finally, after you see the next question you just might consider yourself lucky.

Electronically Yours,

Ms. Carmen Courtesy

Dear Ms. Courtesy,

What do you do about the constant co-worker gifts, luncheons, fundraisers, etc.? Some of these people I have only a passing acquaintance with — and they're killing my budget.

— Not a Humbug

Dear Humbug:

The onslaught of gift-giving and social engagements at this time of year can be overwhelming. But remember that the workplace is not supposed to be a forum for social bribery or extortion. So, set your limits and stick to them. Commit to only what you can afford. Just as important, co-workers need to recognize that you're not a Scrooge and not everyone has the time, money, or inclination for all the celebrations.

So, some suggestions for you and for workplace holiday organizers:

  • Don't be afraid to say "no." If there are constant fundraisers and requests for donations, choose those charities you feel strongly about and don't worry about excluding others.
  • No one should ever be pressured to attend a luncheon, party, fundraiser.
  • Secret Santa parties and gift exchanges should be started at work only after one's sure that there's 100 percent support.

"Gift exchanges are really an individual issue, although there can be some social harassment involved," said Humphries.

Consider that minimalism and simplicity are very popular. People would often rather have home-baked cookies or a jar of jam, rather than another gizmo for their desk.

Finally, if you make the first move, you can often head off expensive gift giving at the holidays. If you offer a card first, for example, you may defuse any feeling of obligation to exchange higher priced gifts.

So, keep your head down, throw on that thick skin, mind your peas and carrots, and try to grin and bear the holiday cheer as well as the winter weather.

 

Electronically Yours,

Ms. Carmen Courtesy

Ms. Courtesy will read over all your inquiries, select questions that will be of general interest, and do her best to answer them in a timely manner (keeping in mind that her column runs monthly). She is looking forward to hearing from you.

Ask Carmen Your Question!

 

 

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