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This month, Dear Readers, we are hit with the
perplexing problem of office privacy. As with
all dealings in close quarters, we need to use
a little common sense and consideration for others.
Whether you drop in uninvited at your neighbor's
cubicle, or read the onscreen e-mail over a colleague's
shoulder, it can be just a little too close for
comfort. So try not to be nosy, and you just might
avoid putting someone else's nose out of joint.

It's that dog-gone prairie dogging... It's bad
enough that we all have to sit in cubicles, with
artificial walls that don't block the noise enough.
But what on earth can one do when one's co-workers
decide to invite themselves in on every discussion,
whether they have an involvement or not?
Dog Tired of It
Dear Dog Tired:
Isn't cubicle culture wonderful? The best we
can say for it is at least it's given us these
wonderful terms like "prairie dogging."
Of course, prairie dogs do that lookout maneuver
for the good of the pack, so the other prairie
dogs can get down to business. Unless this person
is alerting you to an approaching predator, they
need to tuck that head down and invade your cubicle
only when invited.
Stacy Brice, the president and chief visionary
officer of AssistU, a virtual assistance firm,
and a professional business coach, suggests this
problem be broached at a staff meeting. People
need a gentle reminder that many in the office
work best uninterrupted. It might also prompt
a discussion about respecting each other's space,
a lesson that is often sorely needed.
If the gentle approach doesn't work, it might
be time to approach a supervisor. Brice adds:
what boss could resist helping a worker who says,
"I'm here to do my job and I want to do it
to the best of my ability and make a serious contribution
to this company. But I can't do that because of
the interruptions from X. Can you help me solve
this?"
That approach should get your supervisor's attention,
and maybe even get the cubicle culprit exiled
to another area of the office.
Electronically Yours,


I have a co-worker who is a snoop. Nothing is
sacred. I have left my desk for a few minutes
to get coffee, only to find things moved when
I get back to my desk. Or, this person will read
documents on someone's desk, then share this private
information with others. This person also has
no qualms about reading information on my computer
screen and making comments and/or suggestions
even when it is my e-mail!
Privately Peeved
Dear Peeved:
It sounds like you have a triple threat there
this co-worker's not just a snoop, but
a gossip and a spy too. And trust me, what they
are doing is just plain wrong. Unfortunately,
this kind of person is not unusual in corporate
America.
The problem, says Brice of AssistU, is that the
corporate culture in some organizations allows
this to happen. They don't have a privacy policy
in place, or even if they do, they expect the
employees to police themselves. And some companies
even do this themselves, by explicitly stating
that they monitor employees' emails, internet
usage and phone calls, which can subtly send the
message that snooping is ok.
Few want to confront a co-worker about wrongdoing,
but that is exactly what is necessary in this
case. You need to take a deep breath and approach
this co-worker directly, Brice suggests.
State gently but strong that you know they've
snooped at your desk. (And be sure you do know
who it was.) They will likely deny it and you
may have to show proof. Or you can say, "I'll
apologize if I'm wrong, but I want to make it
clear that it is not okay for anyone to go through
the items on my desk."
If the message still doesn't get through, it's
time to go to your supervisor about this problem.
And the supervisor should handle it, because invasion
of privacy can be grounds for a hostile and unsafe
workplace complaint.
Electronically Yours,

Ms. Courtesy will read over all your inquiries,
select questions that will be of general interest,
and do her best to answer them in a timely manner
(keeping in mind that her column runs monthly).
She is looking forward to hearing from you.

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